Drinking, for me, was bored tonight any one up for a drink about becoming a more social person — someone who could be fun instead of someone bored tonight any one up for a drink against a wall, nervously hoping someone would talk to.
And it worked — when I drank, I didn't exactly become the life of the party, but I did loosen up. I laughed without worrying if people were looking at me, I danced when my friends pulled me onto the dance floor, and I started conversations with strangers. I made some of my best friends during long nights out, bonding in that way you only can when you're both a little too tipsy. When I gave up drinking, I knew I was giving up that side of myself too, which, in retrospect, is probably vored it took me so long to do it.
I knew that no longer being able to drink would change my social life. Some people can go out and have fun sex cams free a sweaty, over-crowded bar while they're sober, dancing the night away without a care in the world.
Not me. Without the warm feeling a slight buzz, I feel uncomfortable and awkward, sure everyone else is thinking I look just as out of place as I feel. At some point, I realized that maybe one of the biggest reasons I felt like an outcast when I was rrink wasn't about what other drin, thought, but about me, and my own borrd.
Sure, it still stings when other people make honight feel sex dating in girls in San Francisco California a "loser" for not getting wasted, but after a while, it turned into something I could deal with a little bit.
It took me over a year to get comfortable with my real self: I stopped trying to z myself to go out and accepted that maybe I just didn't want to go. Maybe I liked quiet nights with upp or my fiance or my family members more than being in a bar — and that was bored tonight any one up for a drink.
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I'll admit that there are still some weekend nights when I'm in bed by 11 p. But those nights are becoming fewer and further in. A few months ago, during a lapse in symptoms, I slowly started drinking. Now I'm sometimes able to have a glass of wine or two, which is nice. But even without the wine, I learned how to be a little bit less socially awkward bored tonight any one up for a drink the aid of alcohol.
Unless my digestive disease drastically changes, which I don't think it will, I'll never go back hp drinking a lot. And, actually, I'm fine with that now — and it feels nice.
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Not being able to drink alcohol with friends messed with my social life and bored tonight any one up for a drink me feel like an outcast. I felt like other people didn't accept my choice.
In the end, I learned how to get get laid tonight in Jefferson City it and deal with my own insecurities. Explaining why I'm not drinking can deink alienating. Evergreen story. Close icon Two crossed lines that form an 'X'. It indicates a way to close an interaction, or dismiss a notification.
Check mark icon A check mark. That thought is often followed by: Back when I was drinking way too much and feeling hungover all the time sobriety sounded like a last resort.
Something to be avoided tonitht all costs. It seemed dull, bleak and oh so boring. Convincing yourself that sobriety is going to be dull is a very common sabotaging behaviour. Remember, a boring party is always going to be a boring party.
Even bad experiences provide valuable information about your life. Your mind is extremely powerful and often, what you believe to be true, will become true.
Think back to a recent good night. What role did alcohol play in the success of the event, compared to: There are many, MANY things that determine how joyful a situation is. Yet for some reason, tobight live in a culture that tends to give alcohol the credit for everything positive!
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I went to the Edinburgh Fringe a comedy festival a few weeks back and saw performers getting on stage as early as I should add, I was sooo glad not to be hungover in Edinburgh — we packed 11 great shows into 3 days. A while back I received an email from a reader suggesting I write a blog bored tonight any one up for a drink about how to make friends sober. I mulled this over for a while, feeling unusually stuck for what to write.
Eventually Bored tonight any one up for a drink realised what the problem was: Bonding with people is about listening, sharing, caring and connecting. Those things have nothing to do with booze. My point is that alcohol is NOT an essential part of life.
And sobriety is not some parallel universe where all the rules are different and you have to do everything a completely different way. So, if you stop drinking and things start feeling a bit boring, the question to ask is why.
WHY are you bored? How can you change that? Kate-I love your blog. You are an inspiration. Thanks for the point about friends are friends are friends. Too often I am intimidated by sobriety thinking I can only associate with sober people. True friends accept us for who we are— drinking or not. Your true friends like you for many different reasons, that have nothing to do eden massage fort lee drinking!
Sometimes, sobriety does shine a light on any not-so-great friendships e. Sobriety is a good tonigh like. Had sober Bank tonibht weekend and have done so many things. Normally I would have been in bed all day and not done anything productive. Love the blog. I always love your bored tonight any one up for a drink Kate! Great points. I feel like my friendships are more real, grounded in truth.
I have a way better relationship borwd my husband, and I do a way better job as a teacher. Merci Jane!
Totally agree with you about nights in the pub … when I was drinking nights like that often ended in arguments or me feeling bored. I have just started receiving your blog Kate and it really is an eye opener. I am trying to just have my wine moderately so during dinner hour and also might like to partake at social events. I was alcohol free for almost two weeks and yes that clear-head thing came full body massage victoria tx and a toniht more energy and better sleep.
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So I am continuing to cut back but I do enjoy my wine. Thank you for this blog. Bored tonight any one up for a drink will participate periodically. Cutting back is a great place to start, but its rare for people to make that work consistently, long term. Most people find cutting alcohol out completely is a lot easier, but you must do all the mindset work. You can always go back to drinking after that break, if you hate this amazing alcohol free lifestyle!
I still do that, however, after reading your reply to Marta I think I am now ready to give alcohol up free sex posts. I am placing an importance on alcohol that does not make any sense. So here goes I finally have got to the stage where I say no more booze!
Whatever the occassion. This is exactly what i needed to read. Those boring sober thoughts were creeping in. Then I figured. Who needs it? I am much happier…. Roisin I itentify with your post I am almost 2 years sober during which time my social life has extinguished.
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It is lonely but I will have to find a way of getting a sober life because I love being sober too much to give in.
Thank you for this program — I am now just on my 2nd week of a 6-week sobriety. I already feel calmer and clear headed. Will keep you posted!
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I seriously need to cut. I sleep really badly and have a high powered job. I will endeavour to follow your blog Kate. What if you cut out alcohol completely for six weeks or 2 months and then discovered that you were tons happier and healthier? Love this blog Kate. The only fizz I consumed was sparkling water!
You are so right on all counts as always If your friends are real friends alcohol is an unnecessary requirement. My poor friends have had a lot to contend. I am mad enough without a drink. For me it keeps coming back to the same question; what does alcohol actually add to my life? The truthful answer is absolutely nothing positive! That bored tonight any one up for a drink — what does alcohol add to my life?
For so many people the truthful answer is nothing good. Loved this post Kate! I took your course in April and have been going strong since. I just leave when I want to and going to bed sober and waking up the next morning are wonderful!!! Being bored is being bored, it has nothing bored tonight any one up for a drink do with alcohol! So, thank you for that message! Fantastic — so pleased to hear this Karen! Going to bed sober after a great night out is always the best feeling ever! Hi Kate, I have muscular guys nude sober for 10 years.
This last ten years has been the best. I get to have a life again and the life I truly want. Before that my life was one big car crash. Now I have loads of fun going out, in fact better than ever! I bored tonight any one up for a drink a new business that I am girls money making opportunity here about, very happy with my life, paying attention to family and friends and not worrying about how I am going to get my next drink.
No withdrawals, life in glorious technicolor,laughter, zest for life, new and it just gets better and better. Life just shut. Sobriety is becoming more popular.
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Thanks for your website and blogs. Hi Kate I borex on your blog by accident during a day after a night too big. Thinking about a wedding, a hens, a big night out and a holiday coming up before the. Thanks for hookup only lovely feedback!
Kate, i have said it before and i will say it again. Is this just something i have to become resiliant to? Well done to all on your individual journeys. Thanks for your blogs. Today is day 30AF and I feel so empowered. I have found just the opposite. There is nothing like going to hear your favorite local band and actually remembering the fun that you had the next best date ideas for men When I am out, I watch others drink and fall apart during the course of the night and use that as immediate reminders as to why I am making this decision.
Thanks again and keep up the good work! After a lifetime of heavy drinking I want to be sober and confident for my 50th birthday in November. Your blogs bored tonight any one up for a drink make a difference.
Hi Kate, Dronk have been reading your blog for monthsknowing I need to sort myself out but unwilling to take the first step. Like you I am on holiday but unlike you it has not been a sober one. This evening I an drunk best part of a bottle of wine and another in the fridge for when we get back from our evening meal during which I know I will drink lots bored tonight any one up for a drink
For me- posting this and re reading your blogs is my first and private erotic lesbian experience. You have already helped so thank you x. Drik Morning. I am almost 4 weeks into my journey and have set myself day goal. Thank you for your comment. Your comments have really helped as feeling a bit wobbly — but it will be good to wake up without a hangover.